The Midlife CrisisDec 4, 2017
What exactly is a midlife crisis? One way to think about it is that it’s the creeping feeling that what we’re doing with our lives isn’t worthwhile. Or worse: the midlife crisis can be the feeling that no choice of life could ever have been worthwhile.
Harold G. Neuman
Saturday, December 2, 2017 -- 12:20 PMMid-life---another passage...
I suppose that mid-life, whenever it comes, is one of those exigencies of human being. I've been reading a lot about consciousness lately (after having thought about it for far longer). I'm not certain that we are ever satisfied with our lives and what we have or have not made of them. Oliver Sacks died in 2015, after having a long and productive life. His book, The River of Consciousness, seems to reveal a man who was comfortable in his own skin and one who was, by many measures, happy with what he had accomplished. I never met Dr. Sacks. But his work has fascinated and amused me for many years. I have never owned a new car. Could not see any percentage in it. The immediate depreciation rate makes it non-negotiable for me personally. I do have a life goal which may or may not be realized: publication of some of my own written thoughts and epiphanies. Not for the money or the prestige, though. Just because I think I can...I think Oliver Sacks would have appreciated that aspiration.
Sunday, March 8, 2020 -- 5:10 PMI really like Kieran's Kieran
I really like Kieran's, “The Problem of ‘Living in the Present.’” The New York Times. There he makes the distinction between telic and atelic thought and action.
Pondering midlife is an atelic action. There is no end to it. Maybe no reason to do it, but do it I do.
Kieran is deep. I would like to hear more of his take on meaning, which is the crux of midlife angst. This show ended too early. I wish I had time to read more on this. I don't. But I would listen more and perhaps think more ... especially about atelic thoughts.
Harold G. Neuman
Tuesday, March 2, 2021 -- 3:17 PMFurther and lastly., if mid
Further and lastly., if mid-life is where most of us find meaning, what is the point of getting there? Are we to accept a role of obsolescence, only succumbing to realization, after no one wants to hear what we have to say? I know people who remain contributory and productive, into their eighth decades. Whether this matters appears to depend upon their credentials, not upon their iintrinsic or autodidactic knowledge. item: Harry Chapin's grandfather was an autodidacr. Never earned a college degree. His name was Edmund Burke....looked a little like Harry. Intensity in the eyes...
If you think you know about meaning, wait a bit. You'll get there. Always happens. Good luck.
Harold G. Neuman
Tuesday, January 11, 2022 -- 7:22 AMThinking now about the post
Thinking now about the post on equality of ages and what I wrote about that. No retractions. Meaning, though, is gained---possibly earned, depending on whether some effort was expended. Something that meant one thing to us @ twenty-five may obtain new meaning by fifty. If effort was necessary, so much the better: it shows there was interest enough to make it so---and a realization not previously extant. Maturity arrives in its own good time. When we are frustrated by lack of maturity, in ourselves or others, we are impatient with what must come in the fullness of time. My sense is that, personally, I have learned more in the last fifteen years, than in my first forty. A pity that. But it shows there is something to that fullness of time---that it occurs differently for each of us.